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Living, Learning, and Teaching financial peace

I watch very little TV outside of what my toddler watches on PBS.  Even so, it is impossible to escape news of the bailouts.    I’m very pessimistic that these will do anything but worsen the Nation’s economy.  You can’t fix what’s broken by- as Dave says- doing what broke people do.  The cold, hard, plain truth is that people need to start living their Wage.  The entire country needs a lesson on maturity, and the government needs to stop enabling it’s citizens by creating a false sense of security with these bailouts.  Where is this money coming from?  If my business is doing badly, and I borrow large sums of money from the bank in order to keep that business afloat, and continue to make bad business decisions, what changes?   I wonder how our country would have changed if the Government had bailed out the railroads- instead of allowing the car industry to monopolize transportation.

My grandmother died on the 2nd of this month.  She was a child of the Great Depression.  She grew learning to live with nothing.  She never had a credit card, but did do the old Southern thing of extending credit at stores.  She had credit for gas, for groceries, for her furniture, as was the way of life in small towns.  When going through her papers after she died, I did find a credit rejection from Ford Motor Company when she was co-signing a loan for a cousin that was taking advantage of her unwillingness to say no.  My grandparents had been living on nothing but my grandfathers social insecurity for years.  I imagine that the rejection was devastating and embarrassing for her.  She was raised in a very different financial age when people just didn’t borrow huge sums of money and commit to 5 years of repayment.  Perhaps she kept that rejection letter for a reminder. She died with nothing.  She sold her house years ago and spent it on nothing, and the aforementioned cousin all too willing to take advantage of her.  To my knowledge, I don’t think she ever had a savings account.

I’ve been turned down for credit plenty of times.  It’s no big deal to me.  I can do it in the privacy of my own home, taking off the sting.  Growing up, my mother bought everything on credit cards- groceries included.  More than a couple of times we were standing in the check-out line in Wal-Mart with enough groceries to keep four teenagers fed for a week, and the credit card was denied.  I was humiliated as we had to walk out of the store, everyone staring at our abandoned carts.  From that I learned not to rely on credit cards.  I use debit cards, and the few times my card has been rejected, it’s often been due to bank errors -satellites down, or what ever reason.  Once I was in the drive through for Starbucks and my card was rejected, and I was mortified.  It was probably my first clue that all was not well with our financial picture.  But sweet J was stupidly trying to create a financial picture to make me happy.  I have to confess that I was drinking STBX once, sometimes twice a week, and buying milk for me then 1 year old on top of it.  I was easily spending $75 a week at STBX.  I don’t even want to do the math.  I’ve matured so much financially in that one year, actually since starting Financial Peace in June.  Now when I crave STBX I do Dave math in my head.

When my grandmother died, I didn’t have to worry about where we were going to get the money to travel 900 miles to Alabama.  I had my emergency fund, but I also had my blow fund.  This is where I put J’s tip money.  We still weren’t able to afford to fly down, and had to live for 4 days traveling in our car, but now we don’t have to chose which bills won’t get paid next month.  This is on top of additional Christmas spending, which has been more excessive than I’d like to admit, but I am learning.  I’m being an example to my children.  I’m teaching them the use money wisely, to save for emergencies, not to be reliant on credit cards, and never need to be humiliated or embarrassed because of their financial situation.  I am living- learning- and teaching.  Financial Peace.

December 10, 2008 | Filed Under Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University (FPU), Financial Freedom Journey Pep Talk, Financial Goals 

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