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Resolving to gain financial peace. again. and again. and again

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J and I have hit a few rough patches, that would have been doubly as bad before our Dave Ramsey days.  One of the first things we did when we joined FPU was to get rid of our 2 car payments by selling our cars.  We bought one car that has since blown an engine, and my parents gave us another, that blew a transmission on I-95 on one of the worst traffic days of the year.  We haven’t gotten a repair estimate for the latter, but the former is 3k.  We’ve not saved any money in this car.  What we’ve put into it could have easily paid for at least 5 or 6 months of car payments.  I guess I’m trying to rationalize what I must now confess.  We have another car payment.  We thought long and hard about it, but right now, it’s cheaper in the long run than to try to continue to fix these cars.  In the meantime, we’ll save money to fix whichever car is cheapest to fix, if either one of them is worth fixing.  It had to be done.  We were down to one car, and that car was gone.  It’s a given that J has to get to work.  We still have our baby emergency fund, which can be put towards fixing the transmission in the impala. I think we’re going to just let the Outback go to car heaven.

I did really good before Christmas.  I resisted overspending before Christmas to undo some of the damage on the after Christmas sales.  Listen to me rationalize again… it’ll save me money next year when I don’t feel the compulsion to by Christmas ornaments.  In the end, I didn’t blow that much money, but I hate it I hadn’t planned to blow some money.

We’re going to go through FPU again starting in January.  We’re going to play close attention to the insurance and annuities portion of the classes, and hopefully gain some more gazelle intensity.  Looking back over last years resolutions, we’re lightyears ahead of where we were then, or even 6 months ago when I was thinking of leaving J because I couldn’t take it anymore.  I’m such a perfectionist that I’m going to cut myself a break.  My resolutions next year will be to spend cash, spend cash, spend cash.  We need to plan for this because getting to the ATM is something we don’t do if we don’t make the time.  Some of my [over spending] over the last 2 days was in cash, but when I ran out, I whipped out the plastic. Ca Ching.

Here’s fishing you Financial Peace in 2009.

December 28, 2008 | Filed Under Financial Freedom Journey Pep Talk, Financial Goals, Financial Peace Baby Steps, Financial Peace University | Leave a Comment 

The cheapest $93 I ever spent. Spreading Financial Peace.

I kept the promise to myself and listened to all the CD’s this weekend. It made the time go by really quickly. J and I were in different cars. After I finished one, we’d pull over for a potty break  for our newly potty trained 2 year old. I’d hand him the one I’d just finished and offer some inspirational quip for him. He might call it nagging, but he’d be wrong.

As I listened, I tried to pay attention for something for which to write about for my last post of the month. In lesson 4, dumping debt, Dave says that he knows that he can often identify callers who “have it”, and those that don’t. Those that “have it” are angry, and ready to get out of debt. They find no excuses, have no reason to delay it. They get on board, and they get on board quickly. I would be one of these callers. J would not. He’s a bit more inclined to not own up to things right away. He needs to be knocked around a bit before he sees things accurately, which is why we’re a perfect match. For every bully, there is a wimp.

Our Baby Emergency Fund has a little gremlin that we call Dave Murphy. Any time it gets funded, something happens, and he takes all the money out. We’re 4 months into our Financial Peace journey, and are back to Baby Step 1.. re-again. We’ve had 2 yard sales, we’ve sold a jet ski, cut out our retirement, sold our van, gone to the bare bones for insurance, cut out trash service. We’re still holding onto our cable services. I’m in my final semester of my graduate degree, and internet service is a necessity for us at the moment based on our circumstances. But we have to dig deeper. We have to find a way to get it funded again. We’ve been trying to sell our hot tub, and hopefully, since hot tub weather is nearly here, it will sell. So, I’m going to cut the price again, and all but give the thing away to get our Baby Emergency Fund re-re-funded.

J has a meeting with the manager of the local Domino’s tomorrow. He’s to take in his driving record, and we suspect he’ll be hired on the spot. That will certainly help in getting it funded. We’re also looking to sell Jason’s truck to knock out the 8k debt, leaving us with only one left from the medical bills of our daughter.  My comprehensive exams are next week, and once that is over, I’m going to see about getting a job at Kohl’s as a seasonal employee.  We’re starting to prepare for July. In July, my student loans will come a knockin’. My girls will definitely not graduate from college in debt. Through FPU, I’ve learned about ESA’s, and as soon as we complete Baby Step 3, we’re going to start funding these college funds. Current law allows a 2k year contribution. Our oldest is 2, which seems awful young, but each year we aren’t contributing is a year that her fund will miss out on the compounded interest that would make the 2k per year starting at age 0 until age 18 nearly 200k. There are many steps to get from here to there, but it is important to keep an ear to the ground to be ready, to have a game plan.

One thing that Dave said in the same lesson about those that are going to “make it” is that when your broke friends are making fun of you, you know that you’re doing it right. Some family members have been a little worried, accusing us of joining a cult and such, but I guess I have great taste in friends, because my broke friends are checking out Dave’s books, they’re funding emergency funds. I’m such a convert, so determined to get out of debt as soon as possible, that I’m going to be co-teaching FPU starting in November. It’s offered through my church, but anyone can attend. The next session is going to start on the tail end of a sermon series on debt- in anticipation of the holidays. It is my hope and prayer that my broke friends will join me at least for the FPU. It’s the best $93 I’ve ever spent. 10 years from now when I’ve changed my family tree, and I’m giving like no one else, in the memory of my daughter, I’ll be even more thankful of the small investment. After I’ve co-taught a lesson, then I’ll start teaching my own FPU courses. The lessons learned during the 14 weeks don’t end at the 14 weeks. After listening to the DVD’s (which come with the $93), I’ve learned more, and I know that as I do the course as an instructor, I’ll learn even more. J and I are a bit deficient in the life insurance part. I have none. Nada. Zip. What he has is what is offered at work.

Very quickly, before I close, in speaking of the Holiday’s, I noticed that the Coinstar at our grocery store doesn’t charge if you get an Amazon,com gift certificate from your coins. So, we’re emptying Piggy Banks. We got… ha… $93 out of one. No trips to the mall. It eliminates impulse purchases, and “gotta have its”. We’ve got 2 more to empty so that we can go get plastic stuff for our kids.

The last thing that I re-heard, not for the first time, but I was like “Oh yeah”, was that Prayer really does work. It does. It does. I’ve no doubt that God led me to Dave Ramsey’s program because I prayed for help with finances. If there are any two people that are a testimony to how much things can change in 14 short weeks, it is us. I can’t even begin to tell you of the denial that I was living in, and of the lengths J was going to hide it from me. After 14 weeks, J and I are caught up on our bills, and are working with one another, not against one another. More importantly, is that Jason has become a Christian. The promise and the proof that he was seeing after doing it God’s way, not only financially, but in every aspect of our lives was the evidence he needed.

~Manda

September 29, 2008 | Filed Under Budgeting, Dave Ramsey Financial Freedom, Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University (FPU), Financial Advice, Financial Goals, Financial Peace Baby Steps, Financial Peace University | 1 Comment 

Passing up on the “stupid tax” and walking the path to Financial Peace

About six months ago(before Dave), J was offered the opportunity to go on a business trip to California. Included would be an apartment, a rental car, and a per diem rate with which we could buy groceries. We’re on the east coast, and who knows when an opportunity like this would ever happen again. It was something we couldn’t pass up. A free trip? Free to poor people trip. Now, we see the situation through different glasses, with Financial Peace in our sights. Truthfully, after air fare, boarding our dogs, spending money in CA, this “free trip”, could’ve easily cost us $1500. Before Dave, $1500 was nothing. We refinanced our house in order to remodel it a year ago, and I spent half of it without blinking.

This morning, J told his boss that he’d be unable to go. We’re okay with it. We were very excited about it 6 months ago, planned the trips we would take while in the San Diego area. But now we’re more excited about the opportunity to be debt free in 2 years. We can’t throw away all the lessons learned in the last 13 weeks for a trip that, as those striving for Financial Peace, those doing what rich people do, can’t afford. If I’m honest, we’re quite proud of our decision. We’re delaying instant gratification and instead walking the path of Financial Peace.

We’re living like no one else, so that later, we can live like no one else [and take a trip to San Diego that we pay for with cash!]

~Manda

September 22, 2008 | Filed Under Budgeting, Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University (FPU), Financial Freedom Journey Pep Talk, Financial Peace Baby Steps, Financial Peace University, Financial Planning, Money Management Tips, Stupid Tax | Leave a Comment 

Borrowing your way out of debt? Desperate times call for desperate measures: quit borrowing.

The first step in Financial Peace is to resolve to quit borrowing. Our culture is very much centered on borrowing. First, we borrow our way into debt, and then we borrow our way out with consolidation loans, credit counseling, and high interest loans. Society even encourages us to be in debt by awarding us a FICO score that is used to give us loans. With the socialization of the mortgage industry, the government now has FICO based approval for home loans. Ultimately, this means that those who have not become a slave to debt will not be able to secure a home loan. I suppose there is the potential to save and pay cash for a house, but even Dave allows a 15 year mortgage as a form of debt.

Regardless of your FICO score, in order to achieve Financial Peace; QUIT BORROWING. We live in a society of instant gratification. We have a sense of entitlement. We work hard, we need big houses, big televisions, designer clothing, cell phones that have manuals thicker than the phone book of my home town (Marion, Alabama,) and a new car every few years. Count the number of commercials for cash advances, title loans, check cashing… etc. In case you didn’t know, these loans are a BAD idea, no matter what the “emergency” is. These commercials have women with shopping bags talking about sales that couldn’t be missed, young couples waving fistsfull of cash while driving off in a car from the title pawn saying “We even got to keep our car”. Guess what. You just pawned your car. It’s now THEIR car until you repay the loan. The interest rates that these places charge are criminal, and more often than not, you will struggle to pay it back, or you will lose the car. It will NOT be worth it. Payday loans work the same way. Additional loans are needed to pay off the first loans. Quit borrowing. No matter what society, or some marketing team tells you: you can not borrow your way out of debt.

The most alarming to me is cashcall.com. The “whatchu talking about Willis” former child star is crying that he tried to auction his clothes, and even his car, but then Cash Call gave him the money he needed. The rates on these loans are ridiculous, and vary from state to state. The way to stop this kind of indebtedness, is to #1 QUIT BORROWING, and #2, use common sense. As a resident of Virginia, to borrow $1,500 from cashcall.com, after the “loan fee” of $500, I’d walk away with 1k. After 12 months of monthly installments of $159.83 for a total of $1917.96, nearly 100% of the amount I walked away with. If I were to borrow $2600, the loan fee goes down to a mere $75 but I’m paying $216 a month for three and a half years. My total repayment would be $9095,10. The premise of the commercial is that poor Gary Coleman needed to sell his stuff to get money. Despite the message, that’s exactly what he should do! Calling cash call is the dumbest thing that could be done. Even if I needed this loan to keep my lights from being cut off, I’m paying them the equivalent to a light bill for the next 3.5 years, putting myself in additional financial stress for the next 3.5 years. I’m just extending my financial burdens. If you’re getting these loans to buy something you can’t afford, think about what you could have afforded. Think long term.

Desperate times call for desperate measures. When your finally desperate enough you will quit borrowing. QUIT BORROWING. But, they’re going to repo my car. Sell it, don’t title pawn. Sell it for blue book. They’re going to take me to court and get a judgment and destroy my credit. Okay. Since you’re not borrowing anymore, my FICO doesn’t matter to me. Being a mature adult means delaying gratification, being responsible for the consequences of my bad decisions, and making restitution. Continuing to make bad financial decisions isn’t going to save me from a judgment in the future. It will only prolong financial stresses which branch out into every aspect of my life. Ever laid in bed at night and worried about money? In the shower? Do you get a pit in your stomach when you check the mail, or screen calls because you’re tired of talking to collectors? Get out of it. Quit borrowing. Save 1,000 in cash for “emergencies”. Pay yourself first. Pay for your shelter, food, utilities, and transportation. If there is any left over, pay your unsecured debt using the debt snowball. You can not borrow your way out of debt. No matter how cute the commercials, it will only cost you more in the long run. Cut your lifestyle and live your wage.

You can not borrow your way out of debt.

You can not borrow your way out of debt.

You must make hard, common sense choices to get free of the debt you’ve incurred. After you’ve quit making excuses, rationalizing and making the decision to quit borrowing, reevaluate your lifestyle. What about all those necessities you can’t live without? If you’re serious about getting out of debt, if you’re tired of the stress that comes along with being in such debt, you’ll live without them. Go to the bare bones. Turn off the cable, do you need a land line and a cell phone? Cut down your groceries and buy generics. Don’t eat out. Don’t eat out. Don’t eat out. Cut all unnecessary spending. Starbucks got way too much of my money. Turn down invitations to birthday parties. Lunchbag it at work. Don’t eat out. Get a 2nd job or work overtime. Have a yard sale. Sell something. Come up with the money before you borrow more. You can not borrow your way out of debt. In the end, you have to make the decision either to keep living a lifestyle you can’t afford, and borrowing, or to live your wage, pay off your debts, and be free from these financial burdens. It isn’t forever. In fact, Dave estimates that it takes about 2 years for people to pay off their debt. Wow. 2 years of bare bones living or 5, 10, 15, 20, a lifetime of living in debt.

~Manda

September 17, 2008 | Filed Under Blogging Tips, Dave Ramsey Financial Freedom, Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University (FPU), Financial Freedom Journey Pep Talk, Financial Peace Baby Steps, Financial Peace University, Just Whatever | Leave a Comment 

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